Wednesday, 5 September 2018

500 words

It's been a LONG time!

If anyone is still out there, this is just a quick hello. I thought I'd share a few photos of the yard and be on my way.

I'm committing to write 500 words. Every. Day.

Those words won't be here. But I'm hoping to pop by more often, with garden news and the like.

 For now, the yard in 2018:

And in 2015:



 Things are finally coming together in our new (5-year-old!) yard. I hope everyone is well :)

Monday, 26 March 2018

Weekly Column: Beware the nonchalant extravagance

Beware the Nonchalant Extravagance

“There are very few men and women, I suspect, who cooked and marketed their way through the past war without losing forever some of the nonchalant extravagance of the Twenties. They will feel, until their final days on earth, a kind of culinary caution: butter, no matter how unlimited, is a precious substance not lightly to be wasted; meats, too, and eggs, and all the far-brought spices of the world, take on a new significance, having once been so rare. And that is good, for there can be no more shameful carelessness than with the food we eat for life itself. When we exist without thought or thanksgiving we are not men, but beasts.” 

The above quote is old, but not outdated. Its author speaks of a post-World War Two era where people that lived on rations and sacrificed more than just their taxes to a common effort felt they could never go back to the free-wheeling life they had known in the 1920s.

This is not to compare the lost jobs and wages of the economic downturn to the losses experienced in war time. But if you or someone you know felt the helplessness of losing your livelihood overnight and the fear of not knowing how you would pay for day to day life, there is a comparison to be made between the lost innocence of the roaring twenties and the lost naivety of our most recent oil boom and bust.

While the quote refers to food and how people felt they could never again take for granted the luxury of butter, meat and eggs, and even spices, look around you now and make note of the luxuries that you’ve allowed yourself lately. Is a stick of butter still a sumptuous treat? Or, after cutting back on spending through an economic nose dive, have we returned to our old ways of getting what we want when we want it?

How much food gets thrown out in your home, without a thought or a care for the waste and expense? How many meals per week do you purchase rather than cook? And when is the last time you made leftovers stretch, despite the groans of the kids and even the adults who want something fresh every night?

It’s not only the food. If you’re ever out and about looking for ways to entertain the family, take a spin through the electronics depot at the Lloydminster landfill. Bin after bin of discarded TVs, computers and other expensive gadgets represent the shame of our consumer culture. In spite of what we’ve learned in the last few years, how much of this waste do we still see as essential? Is it really essential to upgrade to a bigger TV? Just because the phone company “gives” you a new cell phone at the start of a new contract, does it mean you should accept it? How many of these things are being replaced simply because they weren’t properly looked after by their careless owners? In light of such waste, one echoes the quote above: “When we exist without thought or thanksgiving we are not men, but beasts.”

This is the meaning of nonchalant extravagance, folks. Something is coming apart? Rather than glue it, staple it or sew it, the majority of people give it away or throw it out and go buy new. How many teenagers (and adults, for that matter) do you see carrying around phones with cracked screens? In the good old days when your parents gave you something worth $700 you were usually driving it. So it’s hard to relate to a generation that has such little regard for the toil and resources that go into their possessions. Perhaps they are only following the example that’s been set for them.

Look around the city of Lloydminster and it feels like people are spending again. There are new stores, the drive-thrus are busy and it’s hard to turn left against traffic. These are anecdotal indicators of how the economy is doing, of course. But have you considered how the economy’s doing at your house?

If you’ve returned to online shopping on your phone while you’re at the check out in a bricks and mortar store, take a moment to remember how it felt a few years ago when a neighbour had to sell their home, or their truck, or move in with their parents. Because those stories are still real.
It doesn’t hurt to take a little depression mentality with us into the future, after such a dramatic downturn of fortune in 2014. Appreciate what you have without needing more, and better, things as the great generation did.

If it was good enough for them, surely, it’s good enough for us.

Wednesday, 20 December 2017

Weekly Column: Losing and finding meaning in Christmas

It's been awhile. For no other reason than that I'm very busy, and I've seemed to lose interest in blogging. There are other writerly things going on, perhaps one day I'll sit to write about them. For now, a weekly column, also still happening. Wherever you are, I wish you a peaceful, contented holiday season!

Losing and finding meaning in Christmas

Ask anyone over the age of 40 these days, and they will tell you that Christmas isn’t what it used to be. Most of us have special memories, not of extravagant gifts or trips, but of simple things like a box of Christmas oranges being passed around at a community supper or the delight in being given a box of Pot of Gold chocolates.

The reason these things were thrilling is that you could only get mandarin oranges in December, and kids weren’t given treats in their every day transactions.

It’s difficult to make something special when our routine is full of daily rewards for doing regular things. You did your homework? How about a candy? Getting groceries with mom? You must need a sucker!

As parents and grandparents, we’re under enormous pressure to top the Christmases of old. But how can we recreate a magical feeling that we can’t quite define? And how can we reclaim the holiday for ourselves, and make it meaningful, when it seems to have become a runaway train of commercialism and debt?

It’s not only the expense of trying to capture the perfect Christmas memory that’s the problem. In fact, if money could do it I might give it a whirl. But you won’t find contentment at the bottom of your wallet, and what joy your gifts bring to others will slowly fade and by mid-January we’ll be back to the old grind with nothing but a mountain of bills to show for it. Will our kids remember these as “the good old days?” Probably, because they don’t know any better. And perhaps every generation has looked upon the next with a certain degree of gloom. But I ask you to sit in a quiet hall and listen to children sing Silent Night and not be moved to make Christmas more meaningful than just the bonanza of gifts and waste that it has become.

It’s not gifts we seek at Christmas, most people would agree. In The Tao of Pooh, Benjamin Hoff hits the nail on the head, saying: “The Christmas presents, once opened, are Not So Much Fun as they were while we were in the process of examining, lifting, shaking, thinking about them, and opening them. 365 days later, we try again and find that the same thing has happened. Each time the goal is reached, it becomes Not So Much Fun, and we’re off to reach the next one, then the next one, then the next.”

Okay, if what’s in the box doesn’t matter, why do we do this? Why do we believe magic can be purchased, wrapped and given? Were our childhood Christmases so happy because our gifts were better in those days? Or was it because we didn’t get new things year-round or put up the tree in November?

Many of us preach that giving is much better than getting, but we should question why we feel the need to go over the top year after year in search of some emotional connection that is fleeting at best.
If we know we can’t really outdo ourselves year after year, why do we continue to try? Isn’t it a tad defeating? And is that contributing to the sense that Christmas just isn’t what it used to be?

In Bridget Jones’s Diary, Helen Fielding writes: “It is just so stupid, everyone exhausting themselves, miserably haemorrhaging money on pointless items nobody wants: no longer tokens of love but angst-ridden solutions to problems…What is the point of an entire nation rushing around for six weeks in a bad mood preparing for an utterly pointless Taste-of-Others exam which the entire nation then fails?”

It’s not all so negative as that. When we overspend on gifts we are trying to tell each other, hey, I love you. I heard you say you like purple so I got you a purple scarf. Or, hey, I want to show you how special you are by spending much more than the agreed upon limit, for what says love like the burden of debt?

A recent report in The Atlantic (December 2017) states that $70 Billion worth of gifts are returned every Christmas in the US, and that 30% of gifts go to waste. Are we putting ourselves further into debt in an attempt to show love, while those very tokens of love are unwanted? Why is this happening?

It’s happening because we all want to regain that feeling of childhood wonder. We’re just going about it the wrong way. Christmas will be magical again when we can honestly say we spent more time than we did money, that we made it a special season for strangers not just ourselves, and that we sought to reconcile with those with whom we’ve fallen out. 

Wednesday, 11 October 2017

Weekly Column: Frugality of Minimalism?

Pick a path: frugality or minimalism?

An interesting question was asked on the personal finance blog ‘1500 Days to Freedom’: can frugality and minimalism co-exist? If not, which side do you choose?

Assuming that you’re reading this column because of a genuine interest in saving your money, what are your thoughts on the subject?

At first glance, many might assume that frugality IS minimalism, in a sense. After all, isn’t frugality buying what is needed when it is on sale, not being wasteful, saving for wants, and saving for a rainy day?

The short answer, it turns out, is frugality and minimalism do not necessarily go hand in hand…but they should.

How many times have you found yourself buying something because it was on sale? Did you know you wanted or needed the item before the reduced price caught your eye? Is it actually frugal to give in to that spendy urge and purchase things that are unnecessary?

By definition, frugality is being careful about spending money or using resources when you don’t need to. In other words, it’s frugal to turn out the light when you leave the room, keep the furnace turned lower overnight, and put your satellite on a seasonal break for the summer when you are mostly outdoors. Frugal people try not to pay interest, they might carpool, or drive vehicles that have better fuel economy.

A frugal person isn’t easily tempted to overspend, just to have what others have. Being frugal often means being efficient with money—shopping sales, doing some DIY, or buying bulk. People come by their frugality for different reasons. Some have experienced hard times or were raised with a prudent outlook. Others are saving to travel, retire, or be prepared for emergencies. There are any number of reasons to be frugal. Are you?

If you see a reduced price on something that you will need and use, it’s frugal to pick it up when it’s on sale. But let’s be honest, how many of us have corners of the garage and closets that are dedicated to these impulsive purchases that didn’t end up being necessary? And have you ever donated unused sale items that proved to be more clutter and less useful than you anticipated?

This is where minimalism comes in. Based on the idea of less being more, minimalism is the intentional promotion of the things we most value and the removal of everything that distracts us from it.

At first glance, the idea of ridding oneself of waste, distractions, clutter and consumerism seems like a very frugal thing to do. The website defines minimalism as a lifestyle that is sustainable, frugal, debt-free and natural. I would go one step further and describe it as a mindset that rejects material consumption, without the sense of deprivation.

But, as pointed out in the post by 1500 Days to Freedom (Ask the Reader: Frugality vs Minimalism), there are ways in which having a minimum of possessions can lead to unnecessary spending. Have you ever purged your home of unwanted and unused clutter only to later look for something you need and realize you’ve given it away? We’ve probably all had to rebuy something we once owned. In fact, the fear of that happening is what prevents many people from letting go of the clutter in their lives.

Being a staunch minimalist might also mean only buying things when they’re needed, rather than when they’re on sale. If a person doesn’t have room to store bulk items, tools, and the like, they might have to pay higher prices because they aren’t necessarily buying things on sale ahead of time.
The perfect example is paper towel. A frugal person might buy the Costco bale of hand towel and store it for a year before it’s all used up, but at a savings of several dollars. The minimalist might only buy one roll at a time, spending much more per roll, but avoiding the clutter of such large quantities.
The frugal minimalist, though, realizes that when there’s a year’s supply of paper towel in the basement it gets used wastefully because everyone knows there’s plenty more where that came from. The frugal minimalist (or the person that just can’t afford disposable cleaning products) tears up old towels and t-shirts for cleaning rags and saves that money altogether.

While many frugal people might consider themselves minimalists by definition, and minimalists might pride themselves on their frugality, there are instances when neither is true. It pays to re-examine our assumptions about how and why we spend our money.

Getting a good deal doesn’t mean it’s a wise purchase. Refusing to spend until it’s an absolute must can be a costly mindset. Somewhere in the middle is the prudent saver, on the path to financial security.

Wednesday, 13 September 2017

Sunday, 3 September 2017

Weekly Column: Back to School, Not Back in Debt

Back to school, not back in debt

Many parents will agree that once your children are of school age, it’s tempting to spend more on what they wear. It’s natural to want to look nice, and supporting particular brand names and styles may be a part of what makes you feel confident and happy.

When the price of oil tanked in 2015, though, many local families had to reconsider their wants versus their needs. We need to pay the mortgage and other loans, utilities, groceries and bills. But do we need brand name clothing, new furniture, the trendiest shoes and that warm vacation?

People in the area were faced with hard decisions. Many are facing uncertainty to this day. And yet.
And yet, when it comes to our kids, we often give in to the urge to treat them to one more movie. One more camping trip. One more trip to the mall. We do it because we love them, of course. We want them to know they’re special and we shower them with things and experiences so they remember a happy, nourished childhood. These are good things, all of them.

Sometimes, however, we need to remind ourselves that it isn’t the stuff or even the vacations that make the memories or enhance the childhood. It’s the little conversations we might have on a drive, or their pride at having helped on a project, or the way you patiently taught them a new skill. None of these things need cost much money. Particularly if you haven’t the money to spend.  

With that in mind, as you consider your back to school shopping this year, remember that the delight and anticipation you may feel on your child’s behalf is exclusive from what they actually need for school.

If they have a closet full of clothing, how much do they need to survive another school year?

Providing they haven’t outgrown everything they own, couldn’t you get by with just a new piece or two of clothing and watch kijiji, the second-hand stores and clearance racks for whatever else they want?

The same goes for electronics. Although there are back to school sales happening, you must first consider whether the product is mandatory. In most cases, the school provides any compulsory technology. If that’s the case, do you really need to spend hundreds of dollars on iPads, laptops and headphones? Or will what you already have suffice?

Remember, if you’re going into debt buying things that aren’t needed, you have no one to blame but yourself. The buck has to stop somewhere. has some suggestions on how to stick to your budget this year:

·         How much of your back to school list can already be found in your home? 
What can be reused from last year? 
Is there any reason not to reuse backpacks, water bottles and lunch kits? 
If you have supplies that you aren’t going to use and don’t want, donate them so another family can use them.

·         Identify how much you can realistically spend this year. Don’t forgo making essential payments in order to buy unnecessary back to school gear.

·         Put needs before wants. Your child might want new sneakers but need a winter coat. Don’t leave the rational thinking to your offspring. If you watch for sales you might get both, but put essentials first.

·         Never pay full price. If there’s something your child wants, teach them to wait for a sale. This may mean wearing last year’s jeans on the first day of school—a lesson in delayed gratification and hardly a life-threatening experience. What doesn’t kill them will make them stronger.

·         Use cash. If kids can literally watch the money disappearing, it will help them prioritize their own desires. No matter their age, children can learn that when the money runs out the spending must stop.

·         Buy in bulk with friends, if you’re certain they’ll pay their share. It’s tempting to split bulk quantities of notebooks and pens with another family, but you’re no further ahead if they stiff you for their half. Enter into these types of agreements only with trustworthy, like-minded folks that won’t leave you footing the bill.

The passing of the school year is as momentous and noteworthy as a birthday, and is becoming just as emotionally loaded. We want to give our kids the very best, from back to school, to birthday parties, to Christmas, and all the days in between. Having experienced the economic slowdown of the past few years, though, local parents must be selective on how they spend their hard-earned cash.

We’ve been in debt and faced uncertainty before. Don’t let a new school year break your resolve to stay on budget. Teaching kids to handle money responsibly is as important as anything they will learn at school.

Monday, 28 August 2017

Weekly Column: Summer Fun in the City

Summer fun in the city

The end of the school year has now come to pass. Many of us have looked forward to it and limped across the finish line dragging an empty lunch kit behind us. No more school lunches, field trips, hot meals, morning race to the bus or struggle to get kids to bed on time. Summer is bliss.

And, of course, summer is expensive.

At the risk of repeating myself, it doesn’t have to cost a lot of money to give your kids precious childhood memories. And while most parents strive to give themselves and their kids a few momentous experiences in a year, it’s really what we do together day-to-day that creates the overall tone of our lives.

The summer months look different for everyone. Many people will continue to juggle work with parenting, with the additional cost of summer childcare. Others will find themselves suddenly bombarded by their kids who are used to being stimulated at school every day. And for those that stay home with their littles, not much will change except for a desire to enjoy the summer weather and break up the monotony of the usual routine.

No matter the differences in our schedules, we are all left with the question: how can we create a memorable, fun summer without constantly overspending in the process?

Plan weekly themes

Sit down with the calendar and organize your summer into weekly blocks, taking into consideration any travel you might already have planned. How much time is left over? If you intend to spend most of that time locally, now visit some websites to begin filling in your spare time with free activities. Don’t forget the smaller towns surrounding Lloydminster—these places have unique activities and so much to offer without your having to travel far or stay overnight.

The Community Events Calendars found on the Lloydminster Library and City of Lloydminster’s websites are also good places to start. Midwest Family Connections and the Grace United Church have free programming available for children, and don’t forget the many playgrounds and parks in and around Lloydminster.

You might choose an age appropriate book for your children and use that as a jumping off point for crafts, games and movies. Let your child’s interests guide you. Charlotte’s Web could inspire some colouring, as well as a visit to the petting zoo or a local farm. At the end of the week, review what you learned together and what the highlights were before introducing the next week’s theme.

Ask around and incorporate local events into your weekly plans. Parades, chuckwagon races, rodeos and festivals of every kind will be passing through local communities. Pick and choose where to spend a bit of your summer budget and you will soon find that empty calendar filling up with lasting memories.

Now that you have an idea of what your summer will look like, are there any broad stretches with nothing to do? You might book swimming lessons or a summer camp, but remember that those boring days also build character. Constantly entertaining children doesn’t allow them to self-sooth and play and imagine. At the same time, be wary of allowing video games and TV fill their summer hours.

Have variation

Anyone that’s spent much time with kids knows that variety and a back-up plan are essential. Is everyone tired of the same old routine? Try some spontaneous fun like backyard camping and sleepovers with friends. Sometimes an impromptu wiener roast is even more fun than a planned event, and is usually cheaper and less work at the same time.

Car pool, pot luck and coupon

No one wants to come across as cheap, but if anyone in the Midwest hasn’t admitted times have changed perhaps it is up to you to fill them in. If you have friends you prefer to travel with, adjust schedules so you can ride together when possible. Keep coupons in the vehicle for any drive-thru you may find yourself visiting. Of course, pack your snacks and plan your meals, but save on those little treats wherever possible. Communicate with other adults and see if a potluck picnic can shave any of the cost off your day-trip plans.

Embrace the summer

Summers in Canada can be dreadfully short. We don’t want to take any of the fun out of these warm weeks by discouraging our kids or pinching our pennies too hard. But the reality is, there is always another reason to overspend. Many of us are still paying for Christmas. Don’t add to your problems by going overboard this summer.

With a bit of planning, parents can bond with their kids at local attractions while teaching them that adventure is a frame of mind. Find meaningful ways to connect while still spending responsibly.